July 8th, 2014 → 8:56 pm @ admin
After the death of your loved one, your grief may seem like it will last forever. However, your loved one doesn’t want you to be so sad. With most of the readings I do, the messages that come through are, “I’m fine,” “You don’t need to worry about me,” “I want you to be happy.”
The first step to begin to feel better emotionally is to think positive thoughts. Easier said than done sometimes, I know! If you feel you are not able to think positive thoughts after losing your loved one, play the “Yes, but” game. That is, after you think a negative thought, follow it with, “Yes, but,” and add a statement of something good that came out of it.
For example, you may be thinking of how much you miss your loved one. Then follow that thought with, “Yes, but we had a wonderful life together.” And then continue with even more positive thoughts, such as, “I’m so grateful he or she was in my life.” If you can, follow that with some funny memories you have of your loved one. And then continue to think of more and more positive aspects and memories. In this way, you’ll be focusing on your love and the good times you had with your loved one, instead of his or her absence.
I’m not saying that this will be easy – but it will definitely be worth your effort. Remember, your loved one is okay, and would want you to be, too!
For more suggestions on how to heal after loss, find my new book: Your Life After Their Death: A Medium’s Guide to Healing After Loss.
June 9th, 2014 → 3:58 pm @ admin
A message that I often receive from deceased loved ones is, “With a thought, I’m there.” In other words, wherever they wish to go, they can get there with a simple thought! Thoughts are also how they most often can communicate with us, but sometimes it’s hard to know whether a thought, memory, or idea comes from us or them.
Most people expect their deceased loved one to come to them as an apparition or speak to them with an audible voice. Because they no longer have a physical body, however, it is more likely that loved ones will speak to you telepathically. In other words, they will be sending their thoughts to you.
But how will you be able to tell the difference between your thoughts and their thoughts?
If you are thinking of your loved one, something will trigger your thought – maybe a picture of your loved one, a special date or time of day, an event, etc. Then this thought will trigger another thought, and then another. That’s how our minds work, a sort of domino effect of influences that results in a particular thought.
However, if your deceased loved ones are speaking to you telepathically, the thoughts will just pop into your head for no reason. These thoughts may be something they said or did, and will come into your consciousness unexpectedly. When you begin to notice these sudden thoughts from your loved ones, you will also be able to feel the difference. Their thoughts will actually feel more like outside thoughts, rather than rational, contemplative thoughts.
The best part is that the more you are aware that your loved ones are speaking to you telepathically, the more they will continue to come to you in this fashion. So make sure to pay attention to when and how you are “thinking” of your deceased loved ones. You won’t want to miss out on when they are speaking directly to you!
May 29th, 2014 → 3:38 pm @ admin
As members of the human race, we all have one thing in common, and that is the desire to better our situation and improve our lives. For many, it’s far too easy to get sucked into the belief that we are limited, that our dreams are impossible and that the ‘good life’ wasn’t really meant for us in the first place.
Sometimes in the hustle and bustle of everyday life, we get caught up in the drama around us and forget who we are on a deeper level. We forget that we are Divine beings having a human experience.
But all it takes is one little spark of inspiration, and we can leave those fearful thoughts behind. Inspiration reminds us that we are not our problems, nor are we bound by our limiting beliefs.
When we are inspired, our spark inside turns into a flame and our lives and those around us are changed. We have the courage to step into the unknown and follow our dreams. We set aside our fears and move forward confidently to play bigger in the world and live the life of our dreams.
But how do we find such inspiration? It can be found almost anywhere, if we’re open to finding it. Perhaps it’s a walk in the woods, watching a child at play, enjoying the scent of a flower or gazing into the eyes of your be loved. Perhaps it’s as easy as reading something that reminds you what a powerful being you are and helps you step away from the story you’ve been telling yourself for so long.
Sometimes inspiration can hit us like a bolt of lightning, electrifying our ideas into action, and other times it’s the voice on a gentle breeze, nudging us to take the next baby step.
Regardless of how we find it, inspiration has the power to change the world. For with inspiration, whatever we can imagine becomes possible. Inspiration has the power to change a boring life into one of What if…?. It opens the floodgates to possibility, brings a smile to our face and adds a bounce to our step.
Want to improve your world? Make inspiration a daily part of your life and things will change. For this reason, I’d like to invite you to introduce you to a website that makes finding inspiration so easy for all of us.
Each day, InspireMeToday.com features one Inspirational Luminary who answers the question, If today were your last day and you had only 500 words to leave to humanity, what have you learned that matters?
Imagine how different your world would be if you started each day with the wisdom learned from household names like Sir Richard Branson (Virgin) and Guy Laliberte (Cirque du Soleil) to thought leaders like Jack Canfield (Chicken Soup for the Soul) and Marci Shimoff (The Secret). So far more than 1000 Luminaries have been featured, including me. That’s a lot of inspiration and I’m proud to be a part of it!
This daily wisdom takes but a minute to read, yet acts as a conscious reminder to that spark within each of us, rekindling our fire within. I invite you to read my inspiration on InspireMeToday.com and browse through the wisdom of more than 1000 other Inspirational Luminarie s, and watch the difference it makes in your life.
Remember, when we get caught up in our own stories and start to forget our own design as infinite beings, it is inspiration that turns the ordinary into extraordinary, fear into hope and the darkness into light. Inspiration reminds us that we are greater than we seem, and more resilient and powerful than we think.
May 8th, 2014 → 7:15 pm @ admin
Whether you want to set a goal, or just believe that what you envision will manifest itself in your life, vision boards are a wonderful way to stay on target, aligning your conscious with your subconscious and universal energy for real-world results.
A vision board is a board on which you can paste images that represent whatever you want to be, do, or have in your life. You can use pictures from magazines, old photos of yourself that represent what you want, or download illustrations from the Internet. While you could use an online program like Pinterest, I don’t recommend it because you want to be able to see your vision board multiple times a day.
After you’ve constructed your board, place it where you will see it frequently. And, as you look, try to “feel” how good it would feel if you already had whatever you placed on your vision board. Make sure the images you’ve chosen perfectly represent what you want, without leaving anything out (it’s a cosmic case of “be careful what you wish for” – so be specific!).
While you can use a vision board to achieve any goal in your life, from losing weight and getting in shape, to saving money for a kitchen remodel, I’ve found that it’s a very useful tool for moving on in your life after the death of a loved one.
A few years ago, I had a client who needed to sell her mother’s house, so I told her to do a vision board of her mother’s house with a SOLD sign in front it. Another client’s siblings were not getting along after their father died, so I told her to do a board with pictures of them all together having a good time. Another wanted to create a charity for her loved one, so I told her to do a board that depicted everything that she wished the charity would accomplish. Yet another client just wanted to be happy again. I told him to do a board with pictures of everything that made him feel good, including his family and friends, his pets, places he wanted to visit, and his favorite hobbies. Place anything on your vision board that will make you feel good and enable you to move on in your life.
In any board you do, you may also wish to include pictures of your deceased loved ones as a wonderful reminder that they really are still around, watching over you, helping you to achieve your desired goals.
April 14th, 2014 → 3:53 pm @ admin
Just like your human loved ones, your pets that have passed can also come to you in your dreams with messages. These messages are often as simple as telling you they’re still with you and love you, but sometimes they can be even more complex. My boyfriend Ken, for example, received a message from my cat, Otis in a dream that he didn’t understand at first…
“As my dream began, I noticed my buddy Otis running across the floor. I didn’t realize that I was dreaming at that moment, so it felt natural that he was with me. There was one thing that was very strange, though. Otis was running around with what appeared to be a piece of cardboard with two holes in it on his back. The cardboard looked like a hangtag that’s used for hanging items on a peg hook in a store. The moment I saw it on him, he turned toward me, ran, and jumped into my arms. His head was buried right into my cheek as he was hugging me, and that’s when I woke up.”
Ken realized that this was not a normal dream. He could feel Otis’ long fur, the warmth and weight of his body, and even felt the characteristic crusty fur on Otis’ cheeks from dried cat food as the cat rubbed against him. When Ken woke up, he remembered the dream vividly and wondered about the meaning of the hang-tag on Otis’s back.
“At first when I woke up, I thought the hangtag on Otis’s back was bizarre and didn’t understand the significance of it until I talked to Karen about the dream later that day. The funny thing is that its meaning should have been obvious to me, but for some reason I just wasn’t getting it.
A few weeks earlier, during Christmas time, I received one of the best gifts I’ve ever gotten in my life. Karen found an amazing painter named Eva, who created a beautiful portrait of Otis for me. I loved it very much, but it was so special that I was afraid to hang it up. I didn’t want it to get ruined, so it was still sitting in a safe place. After telling Karen about the dream, she recognized right away what the hangtag on Otis’s back had meant: it was his way of letting me know that it was okay for me to finally hang that picture.”
As you can see, coming through in dreams is a perfect way for your pets to get your attention if they have an important message for you! It’s also a great opportunity for them to let you know that they are still around you and are okay. Again, keep in mind that you must wake up after these dreams in order to remember them; so before you go to sleep at night, make sure to ask your departed critters to awaken you after their visit.
Many blessings to you!
March 17th, 2014 → 6:53 pm @ admin
Our deceased loved ones love to give us signs to let us know they are with us. If we are not paying attention to the messages they are giving us, they will come in ways that we cannot ignore. In my upcoming book, “Your Life After Their Death: A Medium’s Guide to Healing After a Loss,” I talk about many of these “without a doubt” signs.
One type is when our loved ones give messages through music. Make sure to notice if your loved ones’ favorite songs, with the exact words you need to hear, come on at perfect, unexpected times. It is their way of saying, “Pay attention! I’m really with you.”
Such was the case when Rita received this type of sign right in the middle of an appointment she had with me. As her father was coming through with messages, I stopped and asked him to give Rita some definitive signs to let her know that he was around her. Right after I’d said, “Come on, please comfort her and give her a sign,” Rita’s cell phone rang. The ring tone on her phone was the song “Let It Be” by The Beatles—her favorite song. She knew it was her father, giving her the sign we had just requested. If that wasn’t enough, a few minutes later her phone rang again, and it said “Dad” on the caller ID! She tried calling the number back, but no one answered.
Rita left that day knowing her precious father truly was around her. How wonderful that he understood what we’d requested of him and gave his daughter these awesome signs on demand to make her aware of his loving presence. Now Rita is finally able to “let it be,” because she realizes that her dad really is okay and is watching over her and her family!
February 17th, 2014 → 6:15 pm @ admin
In Through the Eyes of Another, I discuss how writing a forgiveness letter will help you to heal your life. Of course, writing this type of letter from the heart isn’t always easy. It can be painful; it can be scary (even if you never send it); and it can drudge up emotions you thought you’d successfully buried years before.
The most important thing to remember when writing this type of letter is to see everything through the other person’s eyes. Neale Donald Walsch’s quote says it all: “No one does anything inappropriate, given their model of the world.”
When you sit down to write your letter, first ask yourself if you had a role in whatever happened, and if you could have done anything differently. If you don’t feel you contributed to the negativity, try to look at what was going on in the other person’s life. You may even need to look farther back to see what occurred in that person’s childhood. This exercise will help you understand that person’s negative actions from a higher perspective.
I’m not recommending you condone the actions of others who have hurt you. I’m asking you to forgive the person. That means acknowledging their pain and seeking to understand their actions, while letting go of your anger. As Jesus said, “Forgive them, for they know not what they do.” When you understand this concept, miracles will occur in your life and you’ll truly feel like a new person!
Forgiveness will allow you to create your world with love and understanding, shifting your focus from anger and judgment to joy and encouragement. When you are able to release the negativity of the past and allow only light to shine in your present, you will truly be on the road to a much brighter, happier future!
Many blessings to you!
January 21st, 2014 → 4:24 pm @ admin
It was a very sad day. My sixteen-year-old dog, Chelsea, was curled up in her doggie bed dying. She couldn’t even lift her head as I held her and tried to comfort her that morning. I cleaned out a sticky discharge from her eyes that was preventing her from seeing. I told her it was okay to leave her body now because she was in a lot of pain, and added that she could still remain with us afterwards. I then told her I loved her, and placed her back in her bed so that she could rest.
It was snowing hard outside, and about an hour later, my son, Tim, came home early from school. After we had lunch, he and I both went into the bedroom to see how Chelsea was doing. I started petting her, gently cupped her face with my hands, looked into her eyes, and repeated what I had told her earlier, “I love you. I love you.”
Immediately after I said that, Tim sat down on the bed. (I had a koala stuffed animal, along with some of my other things, in a box next to the bed because the guest room was being painted, and I had put everything from that room into boxes. My daughter, Jessica, gave me this stuffed animal to cheer me up a few months earlier because I was very sad when my son, Chris, went off to college.) As soon as Tim sat down, the koala, which was not even on the top of the box, went off by itself and said, “I love you. I love you.”
Wide eyed, Tim looked at me and said, “Mom, it’s as if Chelsea said I love you back. And she said it two times, just like you did!”
Tears rolled down my face. I really believe that is exactly what had happened! Somehow Chelsea was able to relay the message back to me that she loved me too. I don’t know if it was actually her, her higher self, or her angel, but it doesn’t even matter. She was able to say she loved me back, and then leave her frail body peacefully two days later.
Your pets can communicate with you when they are still in their physical bodies, and also after they pass. Ask them to give you “without a doubt” signs to tell you what they need to say. Then be patient and wait. They want to communicate with you as much as you want to communicate with them!
December 6th, 2013 → 4:18 pm @ admin
Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Festivus, Bodhi Day, Saint Lucia’s Day, Winter Solstice, Dongzhi Festival, Yalda, Pancha Ganapati, Yule/Jul/Jule – winter celebrations are as old as man, and just as widespread. Every culture has its version of a ritual of renewal, celebrating the triumph of light over dark, the return of the sun, the rebirth of life after death. It’s the harvest cycle, the celestial cycle, and the life cycle all rolled up into beautiful metaphors which all of us celebrate, no matter what religions we call ourselves.
This year, I’d like to embrace all the different traditions of the holiday season.
We’ll leave behind resentment when someone wishes us a “Merry Christmas” if we’re not Christian, or “Happy Hanukkah” if we’re not Jewish, or “Happy Yule” if we’re not neo-pagan and just be thankful that someone is wishing us well this time of year.
We’ll give cards and gifts to those we love, because it’s always good to show our loved ones how we feel about them. You might even make your gift extra special by writing a letter of appreciation to your loved ones that they will treasure forever (it’s the best stocking stuffer money can’t buy!).
We’ll take time to celebrate the fact that every end is really a new beginning. Whether that means planting daffodil bulbs in your garden in preparation for Spring, or worshipping with others of your faith at church, or filling your home with lights (on trees, on menorahs, or with candles), is entirely up to you.
We’ll be our best selves. I’m sure you’ve noticed how people act so much nicer around the holidays when we focus more on giving and kindness. Use this season to jump start your own initiative into becoming a more giving person year-round, and let whatever holiday you celebrate be truly meaningful in an enduring way.
November 6th, 2013 → 4:22 pm @ admin
In Through the Eyes of Another, I talk about becoming aware of everyone you encounter and making each person’s life a little better – just because you’re in it! This Thanksgiving, I’d like to give you a challenge to call, email, or text those you won’t be spending the day with, telling them how much they mean to you. Thank and acknowledge how they have made your life better with sincere, heart-felt gratitude. And make sure to really listen and be with the people you are with, whether it’s around the holiday table or just sitting down for a pumpkin spice latte with them afterwards.
Last Thanksgiving, I started a new tradition. I asked my guests to write down their hopes and dreams for the following year on a piece of paper, and then put all of their responses in a “Hopes & Dreams” jar. It gave them something to look forward to in the year ahead, and helped them to focus on what they wanted in their lives. We’re going to open those responses this year to see if everyone’s dream came true.
Can you think of a way to make Thanksgiving more meaningful this year? Think of something new and exciting, and then do it. And please remember, Thanksgiving isn’t just about sitting around and eating. It’s about giving your undivided attention to family, friends, and loved ones, and really giving thanks for all of the many blessings in your life.
I love you! May you have the best Thanksgiving ever!