Count Your Blessings and Receive More Blessings

April 1st, 2015 → 2:44 pm @

There is a lot of wisdom in some of the old sayings I find myself repeating over and over again. One of my favorites is  - “Count Your Blessings!” Why is this? Because the more time I spend feeling grateful, the more blessings I receive!

So many of us live truly blessed lives. We have good food to eat, warm homes, and the loving kindness of friends and family. But how often do we find ourselves getting caught up in the minor annoyances of life instead of what’s good? It happens to all of us at one point or another that we focus on what’s bad instead of all the wonderful things. This is a red alert that we need to begin to count our blessings!

Our ability to see our blessings is directly related to how many we have. Think about it this way: If you are on the lookout for things that irritate you, you’ll find them. But if you focus instead on the things that bring you joy, you’ll find them instead. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut of concentrating on what’s not working. This is when it’s time to pause, get out a pen and paper, and write down every single thing for which we are grateful.

Work on developing an attitude of gratitude. Make it your default state. Every time you start to feel sad, angry, or annoyed, get out your list of blessings. See how many there are, and see if you can add to the list. It might take a little time to train yourself to focus on the many blessings in your life, but once you do, you’ll realize that they are everywhere!



Don’t Be Afraid To Cry After a Loss

March 4th, 2015 → 2:21 pm @

Strong emotions don’t just affect our minds; they also affect our bodies. You may recall a time that feelings of intense happiness made your pain disappear and gave your heart a sense of lightness. But when we experience loss and tragedy, it can create physical reactions like tears or pain, in addition to the emotional discomfort. The best way to heal from pain caused by loss is to let yourself grieve, an important part of which is crying.

Some of us try very hard to avoid crying. Why is this? Crying is loaded with many connotations – both public and private. It is an embodied proof that we’re going through pain. However, crying means that you’re alive, and it means that you’re healing. So when you feel the stinging in your tear ducts, don’t push it back. Let it out and get it out of your system!

Crying is an important part of the grieving process, which is just that — a process. You can only take it one day at a time. Look back at how far you’ve come in coping with your loss. As each moment passes, your heart and your spirit will mend a little more. Crying may be just one phase in your process, or it might accompany you through until your heart has healed. The important thing to remember is that crying and grieving are your body and mind’s ways of healing themselves from the pain of your loss. Trust in yourself and your inner knowledge; your body will tell you that you’re closer to healing when you don’t cry as often as you did.

However, please remember, that throughout it all, your deceased loved ones truly are okay, and would want you to eventually be, too!

Many blessings to you!



How to Remember Dreams of Your Deceased Loved Ones

February 9th, 2015 → 4:18 pm @

Everyone dreams at night, but most of us remember only a fraction of what we’ve dreamed about. When you would like to connect with a deceased loved one in your dreams, this can be especially frustrating. Fortunately, there are a few things you can do to help yourself remember.

First of all, please know that it’s very likely you are dreaming of your loved one; the challenge is in remembering your dream, not whether or not it happened. If you’ve asked to meet your loved ones in your dreams, they will come. Now, it’s your turn to do what you can to receive the messages they have for you.

Stress or certain medications can block you from your dreams. It takes a lot of energy to heal from grief, so it’s understandable if you’re feeling low, not sleeping well, and having a hard time remembering your dreams. If this is your case, you can cleanse and raise your energy by doing simple, soothing things that you enjoy, like meditating, listening to calming music, or taking a relaxing walk.

Perhaps the most important tip of all is to ask your deceased loved ones to help you to remember your dreams. They can help wake you up after spending time with you in your dreams, allowing you to remember them.

Now you just have to be patient and wait. When you wake up and remember this type of visitation from your deceased loved ones, you will feel like you won the lottery! It will feel like they truly are there with you — because they are, and you will remember the details of the “dream” for many years to come!



To Connect with the Celestial Realm, Try Meditation

January 12th, 2015 → 2:47 pm @

Meditation is a very important element if you are truly interested in connecting with the angels and your deceased loved ones. (Remember, celestial beings are energy, and energy is not always perceived with your six senses.) It is important to understand, however, to meditate every day with the intention of connecting with the heavenly realm later on in the day.  In other words, do not expect to receive messages when you are quieting yourself. If you attempting to do anything besides quieting yourself, then you are not meditating. It’s like putting gas in your car; you put the gas in the car so that the car can run later in the day and in the future.

If you’re new to meditation, that’s absolutely fine. Go easy on yourself as you begin this new practice. For many of us, meditation is a skill that develops with time, so make sure to be gentle with yourself so you can stick to it. Many things can help ease you into a meditative state. You may want to try playing soothing music, wearing comfortable, breathable clothes, and sitting in a position that feels good. When you’re just beginning, it can be helpful to play a meditation tape that guides you through the process. Experiment with what works for you, always remembering to treat yourself gently and kindly in the process.

Here are 5 simple Ways to Meditate So that You Will Be Able to Connect with Angels and Deceased Loved Ones. Pick the one that feels the best to you.

  1. Stare at candle – Stare at the flame of a candle until you cannot keep your eyes open any more. Then close your eyes and you will see the flame superimposed on your closed eyelids. When this disappears, open your eyes again, and repeat the process.

  2. Count exhales – Sit in a quiet place and simply count each of your exhales until you get to 10. When you get to 10, repeat this process a few more times.

  3. Go within – Get into a comfortable position and go within and become aware of each part of the inside of your body. Start at the top of your head and work your way downward.

  4. Use a Mantra – Sit with the intention of being quiet, but repeat a mantra over and over whenever your mind starts to wander. A mantra I like to use (one that Edgar Cayce used) is “Grant me a pure heart Oh God.”

  5. Guided Meditation CD – if you cannot quiet your thoughts, simply use a guided meditation CD that will take you through the meditation. When I began to meditate, I used Shirley MacLaine’s CD entitled “Going Within.” I also have created guided meditation CDs that can help you to go within to clear your chakras. (You can find them on my web site at

If you meditate daily, you will begin to become more open to the celestial realm and will feel so much more at peace. Remember, praying is talking to God – but meditating is listening to him. In any good relationship, we need to listen as well as speak!

Many blessings to you!



Ways to Heal Your Grief During the Holidays

December 4th, 2014 → 3:39 pm @

The holiday season can be especially difficult after you’ve lost someone you love!

Here are five steps you can take to heal, not only during the holidays, but throughout the rest of the year as well.

1. Be Honest About Your Feelings. The best holiday gift you can give yourself is to honor your feelings. Grieving takes time! And, if feelings of happiness do arise, let them! Remember, your departed loved ones want you to be happy and move on with your life.

2. Practice Different Healing Techniques. There are many healing techniques that can help you immensely, such as the Emotional Freedom Technique, Ho’oponopono, energy healing, prayer, meditation, and positive thinking.  I talk about each one of these in more detail in my book, Your Life After Their Death: A Medium’s Guide to Healing After a Loss.  Some techniques may resonate with you more than others; so make sure to practice the ones that you feel most guided to use.

3. Treat Yourself.  What makes your spirit soar? Make sure to do these things during this season. Don’t forget that self-care can be as simple as spending quality time with your pets, going on a walk, or being with family and friends.

4. Maintain Your Connection With Your Loved Ones. Talk to your deceased loved ones; write letters to them; learn how to receive messages from them; go to a reputable medium who can receive messages for you. Your loved ones want to communicate with you as much as you want to communicate with them, especially during the holiday season!

5. Ask for “Without a Doubt Signs” from Them. Then after you ask, just be patient and wait, and you will receive these wonderful signs. Signs can come in the form of animals, objects in your path, fragrances, songs, specific numbers, dreams, or in many other ways!


May you find peace and comfort during this holiday season and always!

Many blessings to you!


Scent: The Invisible Without-a-Doubt Sign from Deceased Loved Ones

November 20th, 2014 → 8:56 pm @

All it takes is one whiff, and the memories flood back to us. Do you remember how your grandmother’s house smelled? The perfume your mother wore? Or the fragrance of your sister’s favorite flowers? In life, we are surrounded by smells, but we don’t always realize what certain ones mean to us until the loved ones we associate them with have passed on.

The good news is that we instantly recognize smells we’ve forgotten about, and often they trigger powerful memories. This is why our deceased loved ones like to use scents as invisible, but meaningful, signs that they are there. When a deceased loved one uses scent to contact us, the fragrance is usually out of context and has no other logical explanation.

Take Barbara’s beautiful story, for instance. A pool lifeguard, Barbara was on duty the day her grandfather passed. But before she heard the news from her family, she received a sign from her grandfather: the scent of his cigar smoke. It was a beautiful, clear August day when it happened. With just a few swimmers in the pool, Barbara could focus her gaze, but let her mind wander free. A gentle breeze kicked up and brought a loving scent to her nose — cigar smoke, just like her grandfather’s. Who? Where? she thought, looking around the pool, but nobody was there but the swimmers. Barbara started to doubt her nose, but then the breeze kicked up again. She was certain she smelled cigar smoke. Just then, she was pulled away for a phone call from her mom, and she knew her grandfather had unexpectedly passed away. He had stopped by the pool to let her know that he was alright — still smoking his favorite cigar — and that he loved her.

Barbara still smells cigar smoke from time to time, and she knows her grandfather is there, sending his love to her. So when you’re looking for a sign from a loved one, remember that there’s more to it than looking — pay attention to all of your senses, and your sign will come in the right form at the right time.



Waiting for a Sign from Your Deceased Loved One? Here’s How to Stay Patient

October 16th, 2014 → 7:19 pm @

There is a perfect time for everything, but when you’re waiting for a sign from a loved one, it can be hard to stay patient. For many years, I have been able to communicate with deceased loved ones and receive messages from the other side, and I know that you can, too! All it takes is good timing and a little patience.

When you’re waiting for your sign, more than anything, don’t despair. Did you ask for a without-a-doubt sign? Make sure you’re open, receptive, and full of positive energy. Your loved one wants to talk to you and doesn’t want you to feel anxious or doubtful about it.

Another way to stay patient is to realize that every moment of the day and night is a new chance for contact. Take heart if the day is over and your sign hasn’t come yet; it could come to you in your dreams. Even if not, you still have a brand-new day ahead of you. When you keep in mind that the request for contact has been received and it can come at any time, it makes waiting a little easier.

If it feels like you’re stuck and communication is just not possible, it may be time for you to see a medium. Be sure to find one who is reputable and who makes you feel comfortable. You’ll be amazed at how fast time flies as your appointment approaches. With your mind free of cares, your loved one may even contact you while you wait for the date to arrive.

Don’t try to force it, and most of all, don’t despair. Your sign will come at the perfect time, and odds are, when you least expect it.


Raise your Energy with Reiki

September 8th, 2014 → 8:12 pm @

We are spiritual beings having a human experience, not the other way around. The energy of who we are continues after the body dies. This is not something I believe; rather, this is something I know without a doubt.  It’s very scientific actually. Energy doesn’t begin and it doesn’t end. And this includes the energy of who we are. But sometimes, life events can deplete us of our energy, especially after the loss of a loved one. This is why I practice several energy-healing techniques in my appointments – one of which is Reiki.

Raising Energy After Loss with Reiki

Reiki (pronounced ray-key) is a Japanese word that means “universal life energy.” It is similar to the laying on of hands. By placing one’s hands on the body, Divine energy kicks in and flows to wherever it is needed. What sets Reiki apart from other energy techniques is that in order to learn to channel this energy through your hands, you must first receive attunements from a Reiki Master. These attunements do not give you something new; they simply unlock what was already there. It’s like turning on the light; the electricity was always present, but someone had to turn on the switch to activate it.


Reiki helps balance my clients’ energy as they are going through their mourning period, allowing them to feel much better afterwards. Receiving Reiki feels wonderful, like radiance enveloping you, healing your mind, body and spirit. When you need to raise your energy and feel better, I highly recommend seeing a Reiki practitioner. Better yet, I recommend you to become attuned to Reiki yourself so that you can heal yourself on a regular basis.


Use Reiki when you need to re-balance yourself, re-energize, and bring positive focus back into your life or when you have a health issue. When your energy is healed, the effects on your body and life are really quite amazing!

If you’d like more information on this topic, I recommend a beautifully illustrated book I use when I teach Reiki. It’s called The Power of Reiki: An Ancient Hands-On Healing Technique by Tanmaya Honervogt.




Five Easy Ways to Meditate to Connect with Your Deceased Loved Ones

August 8th, 2014 → 7:19 pm @

karen blog photoI tell my clients that praying is talking to God and the angels – but meditating is listening to them. Your mind is probably going a mile a minute, and celestial beings can’t be heard above that noise. So, when you want to receive messages from your passed loved ones, you’ll need to quiet your mind and listen. Here are some simple ways to empty your thoughts so you can do just that:


  1. Stare at a candle until you can’t keep your eyes open any longer. Then close your eyes. Eventually, you will see the flame on the back of your eyelids. When this flame disappears, open your eyes again and repeat this process for five to ten minutes.
  2. Count your exhales until you get to ten. When you reach ten, do it again. Repeat for five to ten minutes.
  3. Inhale, hold. Exhale, hold – each to a count of four. Repeat for five to ten minutes.
  4. Repeat a mantra any time your mind wanders. One of my favorite mantras is, “Grant me a pure heart, oh God.”
  5. Use a mala to count your mantras. A mala is a set of 108 beads, one bead for each repetition of your mantra.

I recommend meditating every morning with the intention of connecting with your loved ones later that day. Don’t try to hear them during the meditation; they will answer in their own time.

It doesn’t matter how you meditate, just that you do it! Again, praying is talking to God and the angels, but meditating is listening to them. And I know you want to hear what those in the celestial realm have to say!

Many blessings to you!


How Thinking Positive Thoughts Can Help to Heal Your Grief

July 8th, 2014 → 8:56 pm @

karen blog photoAfter the death of your loved one, your grief may seem like it will last forever. However, your loved one doesn’t want you to be so sad. With most of the readings I do, the messages that come through are, “I’m fine,” “You don’t need to worry about me,” “I want you to be happy.”

The first step to begin to feel better emotionally is to think positive thoughts. Easier said than done sometimes, I know! If you feel you are not able to think positive thoughts after losing your loved one, play the “Yes, but” game.  That is, after you think a negative thought, follow it with, “Yes, but,” and add a statement of something good that came out of it.

For example, you may be thinking of how much you miss your loved one. Then follow that thought with, “Yes, but we had a wonderful life together.” And then continue with even more positive thoughts, such as, “I’m so grateful he or she was in my life.” If you can, follow that with some funny memories you have of your loved one. And then continue to think of more and more positive aspects and memories. In this way, you’ll be focusing on your love and the good times you had with your loved one, instead of his or her absence.

I’m not saying that this will be easy – but it will definitely be worth your effort. Remember, your loved one is okay, and would want you to be, too!

For more suggestions on how to heal after loss, find my new book: Your Life After Their Death: A Medium’s Guide to Healing After Loss.


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