December 4th, 2014 → 3:39 pm @ admin
The holiday season can be especially difficult after you’ve lost someone you love!
Here are five steps you can take to heal, not only during the holidays, but throughout the rest of the year as well.
1. Be Honest About Your Feelings. The best holiday gift you can give yourself is to honor your feelings. Grieving takes time! And, if feelings of happiness do arise, let them! Remember, your departed loved ones want you to be happy and move on with your life.
2. Practice Different Healing Techniques. There are many healing techniques that can help you immensely, such as the Emotional Freedom Technique, Ho’oponopono, energy healing, prayer, meditation, and positive thinking. I talk about each one of these in more detail in my book, Your Life After Their Death: A Medium’s Guide to Healing After a Loss. Some techniques may resonate with you more than others; so make sure to practice the ones that you feel most guided to use.
3. Treat Yourself. What makes your spirit soar? Make sure to do these things during this season. Don’t forget that self-care can be as simple as spending quality time with your pets, going on a walk, or being with family and friends.
4. Maintain Your Connection With Your Loved Ones. Talk to your deceased loved ones; write letters to them; learn how to receive messages from them; go to a reputable medium who can receive messages for you. Your loved ones want to communicate with you as much as you want to communicate with them, especially during the holiday season!
5. Ask for “Without a Doubt Signs” from Them. Then after you ask, just be patient and wait, and you will receive these wonderful signs. Signs can come in the form of animals, objects in your path, fragrances, songs, specific numbers, dreams, or in many other ways!
May you find peace and comfort during this holiday season and always!
Many blessings to you!
November 20th, 2014 → 8:56 pm @ admin
All it takes is one whiff, and the memories flood back to us. Do you remember how your grandmother’s house smelled? The perfume your mother wore? Or the fragrance of your sister’s favorite flowers? In life, we are surrounded by smells, but we don’t always realize what certain ones mean to us until the loved ones we associate them with have passed on.
The good news is that we instantly recognize smells we’ve forgotten about, and often they trigger powerful memories. This is why our deceased loved ones like to use scents as invisible, but meaningful, signs that they are there. When a deceased loved one uses scent to contact us, the fragrance is usually out of context and has no other logical explanation.
Take Barbara’s beautiful story, for instance. A pool lifeguard, Barbara was on duty the day her grandfather passed. But before she heard the news from her family, she received a sign from her grandfather: the scent of his cigar smoke. It was a beautiful, clear August day when it happened. With just a few swimmers in the pool, Barbara could focus her gaze, but let her mind wander free. A gentle breeze kicked up and brought a loving scent to her nose — cigar smoke, just like her grandfather’s. Who? Where? she thought, looking around the pool, but nobody was there but the swimmers. Barbara started to doubt her nose, but then the breeze kicked up again. She was certain she smelled cigar smoke. Just then, she was pulled away for a phone call from her mom, and she knew her grandfather had unexpectedly passed away. He had stopped by the pool to let her know that he was alright — still smoking his favorite cigar — and that he loved her.
Barbara still smells cigar smoke from time to time, and she knows her grandfather is there, sending his love to her. So when you’re looking for a sign from a loved one, remember that there’s more to it than looking — pay attention to all of your senses, and your sign will come in the right form at the right time.
October 16th, 2014 → 7:19 pm @ admin
There is a perfect time for everything, but when you’re waiting for a sign from a loved one, it can be hard to stay patient. For many years, I have been able to communicate with deceased loved ones and receive messages from the other side, and I know that you can, too! All it takes is good timing and a little patience.
When you’re waiting for your sign, more than anything, don’t despair. Did you ask for a without-a-doubt sign? Make sure you’re open, receptive, and full of positive energy. Your loved one wants to talk to you and doesn’t want you to feel anxious or doubtful about it.
Another way to stay patient is to realize that every moment of the day and night is a new chance for contact. Take heart if the day is over and your sign hasn’t come yet; it could come to you in your dreams. Even if not, you still have a brand-new day ahead of you. When you keep in mind that the request for contact has been received and it can come at any time, it makes waiting a little easier.
If it feels like you’re stuck and communication is just not possible, it may be time for you to see a medium. Be sure to find one who is reputable and who makes you feel comfortable. You’ll be amazed at how fast time flies as your appointment approaches. With your mind free of cares, your loved one may even contact you while you wait for the date to arrive.
Don’t try to force it, and most of all, don’t despair. Your sign will come at the perfect time, and odds are, when you least expect it.
September 8th, 2014 → 8:12 pm @ admin
We are spiritual beings having a human experience, not the other way around. The energy of who we are continues after the body dies. This is not something I believe; rather, this is something I know without a doubt. It’s very scientific actually. Energy doesn’t begin and it doesn’t end. And this includes the energy of who we are. But sometimes, life events can deplete us of our energy, especially after the loss of a loved one. This is why I practice several energy-healing techniques in my appointments – one of which is Reiki.
Raising Energy After Loss with Reiki
Reiki (pronounced ray-key) is a Japanese word that means “universal life energy.” It is similar to the laying on of hands. By placing one’s hands on the body, Divine energy kicks in and flows to wherever it is needed. What sets Reiki apart from other energy techniques is that in order to learn to channel this energy through your hands, you must first receive attunements from a Reiki Master. These attunements do not give you something new; they simply unlock what was already there. It’s like turning on the light; the electricity was always present, but someone had to turn on the switch to activate it.
Reiki helps balance my clients’ energy as they are going through their mourning period, allowing them to feel much better afterwards. Receiving Reiki feels wonderful, like radiance enveloping you, healing your mind, body and spirit. When you need to raise your energy and feel better, I highly recommend seeing a Reiki practitioner. Better yet, I recommend you to become attuned to Reiki yourself so that you can heal yourself on a regular basis.
Use Reiki when you need to re-balance yourself, re-energize, and bring positive focus back into your life or when you have a health issue. When your energy is healed, the effects on your body and life are really quite amazing!
If you’d like more information on this topic, I recommend a beautifully illustrated book I use when I teach Reiki. It’s called The Power of Reiki: An Ancient Hands-On Healing Technique by Tanmaya Honervogt.
August 8th, 2014 → 7:19 pm @ admin
I tell my clients that praying is talking to God and the angels – but meditating is listening to them. Your mind is probably going a mile a minute, and celestial beings can’t be heard above that noise. So, when you want to receive messages from your passed loved ones, you’ll need to quiet your mind and listen. Here are some simple ways to empty your thoughts so you can do just that:
I recommend meditating every morning with the intention of connecting with your loved ones later that day. Don’t try to hear them during the meditation; they will answer in their own time.
It doesn’t matter how you meditate, just that you do it! Again, praying is talking to God and the angels, but meditating is listening to them. And I know you want to hear what those in the celestial realm have to say!
Many blessings to you!
July 8th, 2014 → 8:56 pm @ admin
After the death of your loved one, your grief may seem like it will last forever. However, your loved one doesn’t want you to be so sad. With most of the readings I do, the messages that come through are, “I’m fine,” “You don’t need to worry about me,” “I want you to be happy.”
The first step to begin to feel better emotionally is to think positive thoughts. Easier said than done sometimes, I know! If you feel you are not able to think positive thoughts after losing your loved one, play the “Yes, but” game. That is, after you think a negative thought, follow it with, “Yes, but,” and add a statement of something good that came out of it.
For example, you may be thinking of how much you miss your loved one. Then follow that thought with, “Yes, but we had a wonderful life together.” And then continue with even more positive thoughts, such as, “I’m so grateful he or she was in my life.” If you can, follow that with some funny memories you have of your loved one. And then continue to think of more and more positive aspects and memories. In this way, you’ll be focusing on your love and the good times you had with your loved one, instead of his or her absence.
I’m not saying that this will be easy – but it will definitely be worth your effort. Remember, your loved one is okay, and would want you to be, too!
For more suggestions on how to heal after loss, find my new book: Your Life After Their Death: A Medium’s Guide to Healing After Loss.
June 9th, 2014 → 3:58 pm @ admin
A message that I often receive from deceased loved ones is, “With a thought, I’m there.” In other words, wherever they wish to go, they can get there with a simple thought! Thoughts are also how they most often can communicate with us, but sometimes it’s hard to know whether a thought, memory, or idea comes from us or them.
Most people expect their deceased loved one to come to them as an apparition or speak to them with an audible voice. Because they no longer have a physical body, however, it is more likely that loved ones will speak to you telepathically. In other words, they will be sending their thoughts to you.
But how will you be able to tell the difference between your thoughts and their thoughts?
If you are thinking of your loved one, something will trigger your thought – maybe a picture of your loved one, a special date or time of day, an event, etc. Then this thought will trigger another thought, and then another. That’s how our minds work, a sort of domino effect of influences that results in a particular thought.
However, if your deceased loved ones are speaking to you telepathically, the thoughts will just pop into your head for no reason. These thoughts may be something they said or did, and will come into your consciousness unexpectedly. When you begin to notice these sudden thoughts from your loved ones, you will also be able to feel the difference. Their thoughts will actually feel more like outside thoughts, rather than rational, contemplative thoughts.
The best part is that the more you are aware that your loved ones are speaking to you telepathically, the more they will continue to come to you in this fashion. So make sure to pay attention to when and how you are “thinking” of your deceased loved ones. You won’t want to miss out on when they are speaking directly to you!
May 29th, 2014 → 3:38 pm @ admin
As members of the human race, we all have one thing in common, and that is the desire to better our situation and improve our lives. For many, it’s far too easy to get sucked into the belief that we are limited, that our dreams are impossible and that the ‘good life’ wasn’t really meant for us in the first place.
Sometimes in the hustle and bustle of everyday life, we get caught up in the drama around us and forget who we are on a deeper level. We forget that we are Divine beings having a human experience.
But all it takes is one little spark of inspiration, and we can leave those fearful thoughts behind. Inspiration reminds us that we are not our problems, nor are we bound by our limiting beliefs.
When we are inspired, our spark inside turns into a flame and our lives and those around us are changed. We have the courage to step into the unknown and follow our dreams. We set aside our fears and move forward confidently to play bigger in the world and live the life of our dreams.
But how do we find such inspiration? It can be found almost anywhere, if we’re open to finding it. Perhaps it’s a walk in the woods, watching a child at play, enjoying the scent of a flower or gazing into the eyes of your be loved. Perhaps it’s as easy as reading something that reminds you what a powerful being you are and helps you step away from the story you’ve been telling yourself for so long.
Sometimes inspiration can hit us like a bolt of lightning, electrifying our ideas into action, and other times it’s the voice on a gentle breeze, nudging us to take the next baby step.
Regardless of how we find it, inspiration has the power to change the world. For with inspiration, whatever we can imagine becomes possible. Inspiration has the power to change a boring life into one of What if…?. It opens the floodgates to possibility, brings a smile to our face and adds a bounce to our step.
Want to improve your world? Make inspiration a daily part of your life and things will change. For this reason, I’d like to invite you to introduce you to a website that makes finding inspiration so easy for all of us.
Each day, InspireMeToday.com features one Inspirational Luminary who answers the question, If today were your last day and you had only 500 words to leave to humanity, what have you learned that matters?
Imagine how different your world would be if you started each day with the wisdom learned from household names like Sir Richard Branson (Virgin) and Guy Laliberte (Cirque du Soleil) to thought leaders like Jack Canfield (Chicken Soup for the Soul) and Marci Shimoff (The Secret). So far more than 1000 Luminaries have been featured, including me. That’s a lot of inspiration and I’m proud to be a part of it!
This daily wisdom takes but a minute to read, yet acts as a conscious reminder to that spark within each of us, rekindling our fire within. I invite you to read my inspiration on InspireMeToday.com and browse through the wisdom of more than 1000 other Inspirational Luminarie s, and watch the difference it makes in your life.
Remember, when we get caught up in our own stories and start to forget our own design as infinite beings, it is inspiration that turns the ordinary into extraordinary, fear into hope and the darkness into light. Inspiration reminds us that we are greater than we seem, and more resilient and powerful than we think.
May 8th, 2014 → 7:15 pm @ admin
Whether you want to set a goal, or just believe that what you envision will manifest itself in your life, vision boards are a wonderful way to stay on target, aligning your conscious with your subconscious and universal energy for real-world results.
A vision board is a board on which you can paste images that represent whatever you want to be, do, or have in your life. You can use pictures from magazines, old photos of yourself that represent what you want, or download illustrations from the Internet. While you could use an online program like Pinterest, I don’t recommend it because you want to be able to see your vision board multiple times a day.
After you’ve constructed your board, place it where you will see it frequently. And, as you look, try to “feel” how good it would feel if you already had whatever you placed on your vision board. Make sure the images you’ve chosen perfectly represent what you want, without leaving anything out (it’s a cosmic case of “be careful what you wish for” – so be specific!).
While you can use a vision board to achieve any goal in your life, from losing weight and getting in shape, to saving money for a kitchen remodel, I’ve found that it’s a very useful tool for moving on in your life after the death of a loved one.
A few years ago, I had a client who needed to sell her mother’s house, so I told her to do a vision board of her mother’s house with a SOLD sign in front it. Another client’s siblings were not getting along after their father died, so I told her to do a board with pictures of them all together having a good time. Another wanted to create a charity for her loved one, so I told her to do a board that depicted everything that she wished the charity would accomplish. Yet another client just wanted to be happy again. I told him to do a board with pictures of everything that made him feel good, including his family and friends, his pets, places he wanted to visit, and his favorite hobbies. Place anything on your vision board that will make you feel good and enable you to move on in your life.
In any board you do, you may also wish to include pictures of your deceased loved ones as a wonderful reminder that they really are still around, watching over you, helping you to achieve your desired goals.
April 14th, 2014 → 3:53 pm @ admin
Just like your human loved ones, your pets that have passed can also come to you in your dreams with messages. These messages are often as simple as telling you they’re still with you and love you, but sometimes they can be even more complex. My boyfriend Ken, for example, received a message from my cat, Otis in a dream that he didn’t understand at first…
“As my dream began, I noticed my buddy Otis running across the floor. I didn’t realize that I was dreaming at that moment, so it felt natural that he was with me. There was one thing that was very strange, though. Otis was running around with what appeared to be a piece of cardboard with two holes in it on his back. The cardboard looked like a hangtag that’s used for hanging items on a peg hook in a store. The moment I saw it on him, he turned toward me, ran, and jumped into my arms. His head was buried right into my cheek as he was hugging me, and that’s when I woke up.”
Ken realized that this was not a normal dream. He could feel Otis’ long fur, the warmth and weight of his body, and even felt the characteristic crusty fur on Otis’ cheeks from dried cat food as the cat rubbed against him. When Ken woke up, he remembered the dream vividly and wondered about the meaning of the hang-tag on Otis’s back.
“At first when I woke up, I thought the hangtag on Otis’s back was bizarre and didn’t understand the significance of it until I talked to Karen about the dream later that day. The funny thing is that its meaning should have been obvious to me, but for some reason I just wasn’t getting it.
A few weeks earlier, during Christmas time, I received one of the best gifts I’ve ever gotten in my life. Karen found an amazing painter named Eva, who created a beautiful portrait of Otis for me. I loved it very much, but it was so special that I was afraid to hang it up. I didn’t want it to get ruined, so it was still sitting in a safe place. After telling Karen about the dream, she recognized right away what the hangtag on Otis’s back had meant: it was his way of letting me know that it was okay for me to finally hang that picture.”
As you can see, coming through in dreams is a perfect way for your pets to get your attention if they have an important message for you! It’s also a great opportunity for them to let you know that they are still around you and are okay. Again, keep in mind that you must wake up after these dreams in order to remember them; so before you go to sleep at night, make sure to ask your departed critters to awaken you after their visit.
Many blessings to you!